I am not sure what it is about Kate Gosselin but she seems to polarize people. I find websites that hate her and others that adore her. The supermarket newspaper rags constantly harp on her bad diva behavior.

 This is a woman who has eight kids, is doing it all with some help and seems to really like it. She appears to be the mom all of us wish we could be by being the über organized mom who keeps it going. There is a lot to be admired there.

 Kate with her current weave and Kate with the old back fan hair-don'tLet me be honest here. I am not a big fan of hers. Ever since I saw the diva act on Dancing With The Stars, I am more inclined to dislike her than like. But being the nosy parker that I am, I started looking up info on her and her former husband, Jon. I wanted to find out more about both of them before making any final decisions.

 Neither Gosselin is looking so hot. Kate’s brother Kevin has testified against her in recent child labor law hearings; he and his wife, Jodie, have done interviews stating that there are two different Kates and that she knew the marriage was over six months before announcement of the divorce.

 There are accusations of infidelity on both parts and Jon allegedly being forced to sign a contract telling him when to show up to be the “family man.” Jon has not helped his case by openly dating a slew of women. Nor can anyone say if he is working or not. However, there is another ‘story’ that at some point Kate forced him to quit working to take care of the kids while she went on book tours for earlier books she had written.

 More on the anti-Kate side? Remember when she had the greater than great kitchen remodeled (allegedly gratis) to be greater-than-greater-than-great? How about the renewal of vows? And how does anyone have the energy to write books when you have eight kids?

 There is a part of me that wants to look behind the curtain and see what is really going on. That renewal of vows might have been a last-ditch effort to save a dying marriage but now it just feels wrong. Her constant harping on Jon is bound to find itself turning to the kids. After all, she is about to enter the pre-teen years with the twins and my experience found the hormones go crazy. Plus the trappings of celebrity – the free stuff that show up on your doorstep – can be pretty nice and change a person.

 At best, Kate is taking advantage of the current interest in her life to make enough bucks to last for years to come. Celebrity only lasts so long and you have to do whatever you can during that short time period. I can understand and admire that aspect. As a nurse, Kate is not going to make the same amount of money.

 At worst, Kate is taking total advantage of all those kids so that people will look at her and say what a great mother she is. I might even call it a mild case of Munchausen’s Syndrome by proxy in which a care giver makes their child sick in order to get attention. Kate doesn’t have to get the kids sick. Just having eight children appears to be enough to garner all of the attention one would need or want.

 So is she deserving of all of this hate?

 I am not so sure. She has made some bad choices (that earlier hairstyle) in the past but is trying to redefine her place in the world after a very public divorce. It appears she has made enough enemies that people are willing to talk badly about her. If her biggest crime right now is taking high-profile jobs that earn enough to support her family and pretending to be the best mom ever, it is not enough of a reason for me to hate her.

 Should she ever come out and say she never wanted all these children in the first place, then I would have to change my mind.

 Karyn Bowman lives in Kankakee County with her outdoor writer husband and four children. Become friends with Karyn on Facebook.

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