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As many of you know, I am working on a battle against weight.

I used to weigh 225 pounds. I have been told that being tall makes that weight look less than it is. But let’s face it, a 48 inch waist is still a 48 inch waist. No amount of height is going to make that waist look any smaller than it really is.

I am also dealing with the beginnings of arthritis which really sucks some days. My energy gets zapped and before I know it, I am taking a two hour nap and not the 20 minute nap I was hoping to do instead. I get those flares of a small temp with no reason for it, especially in the winter time. Fatigue is not my friend and I try to work around it all of the time.

In the last few years, I have taken off a lot of weight and 7 inches around the middle. Those seven inches were hard won as I have a deep and abiding love for food. I love trying new recipes, I love things with fat and sugar. If it is deep fried, well, I am in heaven. But research has told me those things are not good for me so I have learned to cut back.

Soda is once a week, cookies and candy are eaten less often. I try to stick to water and ice tea for drinks while snacking on popcorn a little more often.

But still, I could lose about 10 more pounds. The diet and exercise has been good but I need a little extra push. So I thought I would take a gander at the Paleo diet. Some people call it the Caveman diet.

Paleoista by Nell StephensonI picked up Paleoista  by Nell Stephenson. Look at that cover, she looks hip and happy with legs way too long for her body. But that is beside the point.

Then I began reading the book. I was OK with giving up processed food. I mean, I know how to make sauces and such, I shouldn’t rely on noodles from a bag or sauce from a jar.

Eating more fresh fruit and vegetables actually sound like a good idea to me. That is how I have lost a lot of my weight by incorporating fresh or frozen veggies and fruits in the diet. Eating more protein seemed like a good idea as well.

Then I got to the part that said no grains because people in the paleo era were nomadic, therefore they did not have time to plant and wait for grains to grow. That meant no bread, no pasta, no donuts, no cereal, no cake.

After that I go to the part that said no legumes because that would have taken too much time to grow before the group had to pick up and leave again. So no refried beans, no white kidney beans in many of my soups, no beans in the chili or any number of dishes.

But the worst came when she said no dairy because traveling with a cow or goat would not have happened. Which means no milk, cheese, ice cream, sour cream, cottage cheese, or cream cheese.

All credibility was lost when the author made the statement that these three groups are not really food groups and therefore you are not missing out on anything.

Really?

I have learned the hard way that wheat bread – not white bread- is the way to control my sugars from doing the big surge. I have learned that Barilla’s pasta with semolina is a better choice for me than even Prince (even if Wednesday is Prince Spaghetti Day).

I have learned that I feel better when beans are a part of my soups. I feel better when I eat them. As for milk, I only drink whole milk so that the fat slows down the uptake of the sugar in the milk. But I rarely drink more than a half a cup on any given day.

I like butter on my freshly cooked corn-on-the-cob, I like cream cheese on my bagels.

But here is what I do not do. I do not eat like a pig. I know my serving sizes and I stick to them. I allow myself days to cheat and eat some forbidden things because to totally take them away would be killer. I would never stay on that diet.

Perhaps the Paleo diet worked for the author of this book. But for me, it would have been a total wash. I refuse to follow any diet that says stop eating entire food groups.

So I guess I will go back to what I was doing with eating more veggies and fruits, drinking water, and getting plenty of exercise. Perhaps I should up that walking distance again. More exercise seems to be the best  answer to any of my weight problems in the long run.

What diet books have you read lately that seemed like a bust after you started reading the book?

 

 

Dinosaur Garden

Dinosaur in the garden

 

For the Love of Benedict

Family Movie Night

by Karyn Bowman

Because I see so many movies, I am always surprised when I begin to see certain actors turn up again and again.

Sometimes it is because they are the flavor/the cutie of the moment. And sometimes it is because that actor is so good everyone wants to use them in every possible way.

The latest actor who seems to be everywhere is Benedict Cumberbatch. His most famous role is that of Sherlock Holmes in the BBC series, Sherlock. The Sherlock Holmes character seems to be enjoying a bit of revival with the Guy Ritchie movies, the BBC series starring Cumberbatch, and the CBS series starring Johnny Lee Miller. I have watched them all and appreciate the difference of each production.

With Cumberbatch’s performance, there is the usual high level of confidence in his knowledge about, well, everything. This Sherlock doesn’t suffer fools although he can be kind at times as well. What I love most about Cumberbatch’s performance is the insouciance he gives Sherlock. The way he is a petulant child despite his high intelligence.

Holmes is a bear to deal with in the best of circumstances but when he is without a case he is libel to start shooting a gun at the awful wallpaper of his flat. And once he gets a case, he happily steps on the coffee table to get to where he wants to go like a teenager making their way to the kitchen for food.

The thing is, as I watch all of the movies I meant to see last fall, I start noticing Cumberbatch in many of them. Last weekend, I watched August:Osage County starring Meryl Streep and Julia Roberts.The story is about a family gathering together after the disappearance of the patriarch. Soon it becomes a funeral gathering. But it is a mean spirited one in which two women from an older generation feel the need to tear down their spouses and children at every turn.

Cumberbatch plays the son of the aunt who has fallen in love with one of his cousins. It is a brilliant performance in that he does not play a confident man or a smart one. Little Charles is simply trying to get through life and is happy he has found someone those little joys.

You could almost say the same about his performance as a plantation and slave owner in 12 Years a Slave. It is not that his character is suprememly smart or stupid. He is a man of his times in which you needed slaves to run a succesful plantation. His character might have some decency but not enough, not enough to stand up to those things he knows are wrong.

Finally, there is his character in Star Trek Into Darkness. Cumberbatch plays Khan with steely eyed fearsomeness. He is smart, crafty, willing to blame it all on anyone but himself. Fierce, loyal to his fellow creatures, and willing to double cross all because the means do justify the ends.

There are two other movies I have not seen yet that feature Cumberbatch. The first is The Fifth Estate about Julian Assange of WikiLeaks. The second movie is The Hobbit:The Desolation of Smaug in which Cumberbatch voices the dragon. I have them on my list of must-see movies because for Adults, Cumberbatch is always a great actor to watch.

Until next week, see you in the rental aisle.

In Camp NaNoWriMo

Did I tell you I am taking a complete leap of faith?

This summer I jumped on the Camp NaNoWriMo band wagon. It is the write-a-novel-in-a-month online community that normally runs in November. For the months of April and July it runs in a ‘less’ structured format so that what people are working on include poetry, screenplays, dissertations, or anything they want at the word count best suits their project.

For the next 29 day, I am writing 1600 or more words a day in order to complete my second novel. While the first one is done and in need of some heavy duty editing, I really needed a break from it. It is time to put that work aside and get deep into a different story.

2014-Participant-Facebook-Cover 2

For now, I am living with Fiona who has issues. Like none of the rest of us do. But she has them and needs to work some things out. Every time I write another chapter, I find out a little bit more about this art professor/potter.

It also means I have a stack of art books to look through so I can understand her world just a little bit more. I am having fun with this and so far, I am keeping up. I hope by the end of the month I can say I have written a book and need to find a literary agent.

What leaps are you taking this summer?

 

 

Family Movie Night

by Karyn Bowman

This has been one of the strangest springs in my lifetime.

The winter lasted so long that the buds on my dogwood tree never formed and, therefore, never bloomed. Come to think of it, I do not remember seeing Magnolia trees in bloom this year either.

The locust trees bloomed but it seemed like a very, very short time that they were out. Finally, last week, the Linden trees set out their flowers and the soft gardenia scent drifted through the air as I walked my puppy along our usual route. The smell lasted six days, maybe a week. It would make me stop in my tracks and look for the trees giving off the scent.

I am not sure how many of these trees exist in the parkways around town. All I know is that each year in the month of June, I truly appreciate them.

Fault in our StarsOne of the things that have been happening with our family is my girl’s need to see some movies that come from Young Adult literature.

A few weeks ago, she went with her friends to see The Fault in Our Stars starring Shailene Woodley. It is based on the book of the same name by John Green. I read it, loved it, and sanctioned her going. The story is about a girl with terminal cancer who meets and falls in love with a boy who lost his leg to cancer.

While the story takes some twists and turns that you don’t expect, there is one thing that you do expect: There is going to be a whole lot of crying. In fact, the girls told me virtually everyone in the theater was sniffling or weeping. There was no way to avoid it.

The group thought it was a great movie and really enjoyed it.

Then this past weekend, we watched The Perks of Being a Wallfower starring Emma Watson. This is a story about a freshman boy who is bullied and teased in high school because he is smart. But then he finds a group. It starts with Patrick in his shop class. Then Charlie meets Patrick’s step sister, Sam. Soon, he is in their group.

The perks of being a wallflowerAs we race to the end, there are teenage dramas and high school milestones. Couplings, divisions and re-groupings occur. But at the very end we learn a secret of what makes Charlie tick. It is devastating and yet the clues were there all along. We didn’t quite connect them together.

It ended with me explaining how the story got “there,” pointing out the clues. The next day as we talked about the Wallflowers movie and the Fault in Our Stars movie, the girl made the comment that while she really liked the latter, it was the former that was the better movie.

When I pressed for an answer, the reply wasn’t ‘because.’ The reply was that Wallflowers was a richer and deeper movie. While Fault in Our Stars was a good movie, it wasn’t as good as the other one.

Which explains why I like the flowers of the Linden tree above all others. The scent is richer, denser, a little more complex. The hints of sadness make the moments of triumph all that much striking.

Until next week, see you in the rental aisle.

Family Movie Night

by Karyn Bowman

The other night when I got home from a softball game with the daughter in tow, there was a sheet of paper on my porch table.

It was about our little Country Market, about the roof caving in, about how we should support the owners in their time of need.

That bit of light you see through the door is sky.

That bit of light you see through the door is sky.

It has been very strange to not have that market available. There have been dozens of times in which I have thought to myself that I need to go to the store and pick up this, that, and the other. My husband says he has done the same. Then we remember we cannot go into the store.

That ‘oh’ hangs in the air before the thud of realization.

A store like that makes a town. It was a big factor in our decision to move here. So whenever I am with people I ask “What do you know?” I ask “Are they going to re-open?”

The response for the first-timers are always shock and disbelief. That was my own reaction when I came home from work that Tuesday. One of my son’s friends was bunking on the futon because they were evacuated from their apartment.

But then we talk about what that little store means, how getting fresh meat and produce really matters. With the closing of that store, even if it is only for a short time, we are suddenly in a food desert. Dollar General might have limit choices of meat but fresh fruits and veggies are not there.

It is sad and frustrating. So my wishes and hopes are that Larry and Sandy decided to re-open, that any and all repair work goes smoothly. And that our little store re-opens soon so that  we can mix and mingle  once more while we buy our groceries as a community.

I thought about movies that focused on small businesses. The first that came to mind was Barbershop starring Ice Cube as a man who has inherited his father’s barbershop on the south side of Chicago. Ice Cube is able to cut hair and has about six other barbers cutting hair in their chairs.

Barber Shop starring Ice Cube, Cedric the Entertainer, Eve, Micheal Ealy, Anthony Anderson, Troy Garity, David Keith, Sean Patrick Thomas

Barber Shop starring Ice Cube, Cedric the Entertainer, Eve, Micheal Ealy, Anthony Anderson, Troy Garity, David Keith, Sean Patrick Thomas

But this is not what he wants to do with his life. Once he can get rid of the barbershop, this man knows he can find a better way to support his wife and expected child. Trying to get rid of his father’s shop is an ordeal until a local ‘business’ man makes an offer. When Ice Cube learns of the new direction for the old barbershop, he feels regret. He looks around and realizes why a simple business like this old shop is so important to the community.

Is this a movie for the younger members of the family? I would say no. It moves too slowly without enough chases scenes, explosions, or fights to keep their attention. Plus, there are some language issues that make me a little embarrassed, let alone a child under 13. I am not sure if kids over 13 will like it because of the adult issues of owning a business but not loving it. There is a sub plot about stupid crooks involving Anthony Anderson but the language these guys use is not appropriate for younger children.

That said, I do enjoy this movie as an adult. I love the interaction of the staff at the barbershop, I find the theft storyline funny, and I love how Ice Cube underplays a role he could have hammed it up. Instead, he let the story play itself out and that is what I love about this movie.

Until next week, see you in the rental aisle.

A Lovely Work Area

A found table, a few work tools neatly stowed away. that may be one part of heaven.

 

 

Garden table

The Great Gob Smack

Family Movie Night

by Karyn Bowman

Today I am going to share the big secret I rediscovered in the last few weeks. Every now and again this one has to smack me upside the head. But every time it does, I swear I have the same shocked reaction.

Time moves on, kids grow up, and I keep getting older.

It hit me seeing pictures of Mallory Boomsma’s wedding from a few weeks back. Our family know Mallory from 4H and I remember when she loved to hold the new baby in our house. That baby is now 13-years-old and doing the same as Mallory. She loves to play with babies.

When did that happen? How did Mallory get old enough to marry and my girl old enough to be as Mallory was way back when? And why do I keep finding gray hairs mixed in my dark locks?

Well, this realization really smacked me in the face, again, when my youngest did not want to watch The Incredibles with me. There was a time when I could bring home the latest animation flick and be called a hero. Nights on the couch with popcorn was the norm and everyone was happy.

Image from IMDb.com

Image from IMDb.com

But when I brought home that movie recently, I got snarky comments and rolled eyes. A few days later, I brought home a Goosebumps movie and was a hero once more.

Except, I wasn’t going to watch that movie with them. I was not the least bit interested. This series is poorly made and watching PG horror flicks is not in my wheel house at all.

The pushing of Mom away with youngest child has started. Time is moving on.

Well, at least I can watch The Incredibles if I want and I do.

This is one of those movies that borders on perfection. It lands on my list of perfect movies because the characters mix well together, the angst/conflict is something all of us can relate to (have I settled in my day-to-day life as a grown-up), and the action scenes are, well, incredible.

The story is about how superheroes are put into hiding because of fear and financial damages. It is not easy to go into a 9-5 life when you are used to saving the day.

But that is what Bob and Helen (Mr. Incredible and Elastigirl) do with their three children in a nice quiet suburb of a large metropolitan area somewhere in the USA. A job loss and a potential new sideline throws the family, going through normal isolation issues, into something more serious, more dangerous and potentially bringing the family closer.

I love the dialogue of this movie, the way the family interacts and gives conflicting messages. I enjoy the active discussion about what makes people special and what makes us all ordinary. I love how, for once, the villain is done in by his own callous behavior. And the actions scenes really pump me up whether it is in a burning building or with a giant robot.

It is a movie that I will watch again. Until grand kids show up, I guess I am watching it alone.

Until next week, see you in the rental aisle.

Feeling the Losses

Be aware, I am about to be very self centered for this post.

This has been a sad week for me.

Our family lost two pets to a brutal and vicious attack by neighborhood dogs.

Our rabbit, Thumper.

Our rabbit, Thumper.

Our pet rabbits lived in a hutch in the back yard. They had a wonderful shady spot, were loved and adored. They had just mated only last week.

But all that changed when two dogs tipped over the hutch, ripped off the bottom screening, and killed our female. My husband heard the commotion and ran outside to run them off. Except the biggest one decided to try and let him know who was boss.

He managed to get pictures and we filed a police report. Dale turned the hutch so it could not be tipped again. We thought it might be OK for Busy but it wasn’t.

Two days later they came back for Busy. They crawled under, pulled off the screen, and killed the bunny. Left him for dead in the yard. When my husband came back from his walk with our dog, he saw a vulture in the yard. Coyotes would have taken him away to have a good meal.

As you might imagine, I have devastated kids. I feel bereft and I wonder if the police an really do anything beyond slap the owners on the wrist.

If I were a shooting woman, I would sit in my yard with a shot gun and wait for those beasts to show up again. However, I need a FOID card and even then I am not safe from the long arm of the law.

That was loss #1. Loss #2 came when I looked at my writing group’s yahoo board. It was decided to shut down. We are kaput. No discussion, no nothing. It’s over.

Image by Patuska

Image by Patuska

This is the only place I have that I can talk about how characters are developing, how they are changing and growing without people looking at me like I am crazy. I see those pitying looks when people don’t realize how characters become real to you. But when you have guided and directed, sometimes they let you know when the wrong road is heading up.

It is the only place where I can be a grammar or spelling wonk and not be out of place. It is the only place I can be my nerdy self.

I am really going to miss it. Worse yet, I need to find another writer’s group.

Maybe that will take some of the pain away.

I hope.

 

 

 

 

Family Movie Night

by Karyn Bowman

Lately, I have been reading books and watching movies about the Holocaust. What saddens me the most about this time period is the absolute hatred for Jews that seemed to go beyond hating Jewish Bolsheviks, it went beyond the desire to have a pure Aryan race. It was an evil that went beyond the need to be right no matter what.

I saw this in The Book Thief, I read about it in The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. In the Gabriel Allon series by Daniel Silva I see the long term effects of being a Holocaust survivor – whether it is you or a family member.

XMen Days of Future PastHowever, this past weekend the husband and I went to see X-Men: Days of Future Past. Suddenly, we were right back in a holocaust of those who are different. I know the title sounds like some horrible grammar rule gone crazy but the story requires that you suspend disbelief at all costs.

As the movie starts, we see a world in which mutants are hunted down by giant robots called Sentinals. But as with any campaign to eradicate one group, it stops being about only those creatures and includs anyone who aids them or are related. We see piles and piles of bodies and bones in a darkened world in which Sentinals have the ability to use any skill from any mutant.

They were created by a scientist named Trask who used DNA and other tissue from Mystique (Jennifer Lawrence). It is at this point that Professor X/Charles (Patrick Stewart), Magneto/Erik (Ian McKellan), Wolverine (Hugh Jackman), and Storm (Halle Berry) find a lone surviving group of mutants who can escape the Sentinals on a regular basis using a form of time travel.

That is when Charles and Erik come up with a crazy plan to send Charles back in time to talk to his younger self. When it is deemed that Charles would not make the trip, Wolverine goes in his stead. This is when things get really strange as Wolverine eventually meets up with a younger Charles and Beast, plan to break Erik out of prison (it’s complicated), and stop Mystique.

I found this to be an interesting movie, slow only in a few parts, and yet able to laugh at itself. The acting is top tier by the key players of Jackman, Stewart, McKellan, Michaeal Fassbander, James McAvoy and Lawrence. The special effects for this movie are outstanding. My favorite moment has to be when Quicksilver stops an attack during the prison break scene to the soundtrack of Time in a Bottle by Jim Croce. That might be the last time we have a good laugh but it is a fascinating scene.

It is a dark movie that I would not recommend for kids under the age of ten because I don’t think they are going to understand the total context of this movie. We live in an age where scary things happen but not like this in which neighbors and family members might turn you in for being ‘different.’

Nazi Germany would have never happened without the fear of wondering if you would be next to disappear, to be marched to death camps, or killed before your family’s eyes. Especially if you had spent the last several years watching this happen to neighbors and friends or anyone who disagreed with the powers that be.

The X-Men have always had the Holocaust as an undercurrent, that those dark times could and will return. It is that fear which permeates the movie, making it compelling and terrifying all at the same time.

Until next week, see you in the rental aisle.

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